Biblical lament is grief spoken in prayer. It is what happens when sorrow, confusion, disappointment, anger, and longing are no longer hidden or swallowed, but carried to the Lord instead.

There is a gap between expectation and reality that often doesn’t get spoken about. We sit in that gap, looking back at what we thought would be and forward into what is. No one prepared me for sitting in that gap, and the grief of realizing that life didn’t turn out the way I thought it would.

We rarely talk about the cost of healing . . . the people we lose along the way.

We talk about healing from unhealthy dynamics.

We talk about boundaries.

We talk about standing up against abuse, verbal attacks, disrespect, manipulation.

But we don’t often talk about the aftermath.

When the Five Stages of Grief aren’t enough.